In the
Got Faith? discussion, I mentioned that I think there's a component, or aspect, of faith that involves an individual receiving value or being valued by the object of their faith. In other words, if I were to say something like, "He's put his faith in sports" then there's a corollary statement that I could make - "He feels valued through sports (or his interaction with sports, or his involvement in sports)." I've been trying to figure that faith and value connection out a bit better and I think I've got it.
I think that when we receive value from something (in other words, we feel valued because of something or someone else) then we are believing that that other thing (or other someone) has the ability to actually give us that value. We have faith that that thing or person has the authority, or ability, to ascribe value to us.
Here's an example.
John Doe meets Jane Smith. As they build a relationship he comes to the point of telling a friend of his, "She makes me feel great! It's like when I'm with her I'm alive in a way that I wasn't before. Because of her I'm walking on clouds." (or something like that.) He feels valued by her. He feels more valuable because he is with her and has a relationship with her. And he has faith that she is able to impart this value (he's experienced it), he has faith that she will continue to impart this value (he hasn't experienced it, but he believes it rationally), and he has faith that this new valuation of himself that he's experiencing thanks to her is really true about him and truly from her (that's probably a more irrational bit of faith). [I think I managed to get all of your faith definitions in there, Darryl.]
Of course, John having faith in Jane begs the question, is Jane trustworthy. Is she worth putting faith in. Can she really provide value in the way that John thinks she's providing it.
So let's assume that Jane isn't worth putting faith in (mostly because I think it helps to think through the faith and value connection). Imagine that John finds out Jane has been cheating on him with Jimmy. (I decided to keep rolling with those J names.) At this point, I think he's got a few options:
1) He's going to continue to receive his valuation through Jane, which means he's going to feel like crap. He's going to wonder what he did wrong. He'll probably engage in some sort of self flagellation and deprecation. He hasn't lost faith in Jane. Instead he's accepted a negative valuation of himself.
2) He's going to reverse his faith. He'll no longer believe that Jane has authority, or even an ability, to determine his own worth. Rather than recognizing that he probably shouldn't have put so much faith in her in the first place, he'll instead take on a negative faith regarding her. Not only does she no longer have any ability to give value to him in any way, but she'll never be able to. Despite experiences that show that she can indeed make him feel valued, he will reverse his belief regarding her to such an extent that even what she can do is no longer accepted as being possible.
3) He's going to lose his faith. He'll realize that Jane was not where his faith should have been put in the first place, and that she also should not have been his chief source of receiving value. He may still be able to recognize that she has some ability to make him feel good about himself, but he's more sober in his view of her and recognizes her more clearly for who she truly is.
The next question that pops into mind is which comes first, the faith or the receiving of value? Perhaps it's the faith first, because we have to take that first step into a relationship (whether it's accepting the job, going on the first date, or praying your first prayer). Perhaps it's a mustard seed size of faith that begins it all in the first place. But putting that bit of faith in something enables the opportunity to get a response. Is this thing worth putting my faith in? Then, when value is received through that bit of faith-putting, the faith increases.
What do you think? Is this a reasonable connection to make between faith and value? Does it make more sense of what faith is or just confuse the issue?