Sunday, January 24, 2010

Authentic

One of the things that I loved about the church I was a part of in Detroit was that it was utterly authentic. When we sang, it wasn't the sound of angels, or even of a choir.  It was the sound of a doctor, a janitor, a grandma turned mom again, a German, an African-American, a heinz 57 white person, a college graduate, a post doc student, a man who never made it past 3rd grade....  It was the sound of us. No more. No less. We were off key and off beat. We mucked our way through the songs and some days it sounded good and some days it was just a sound. But it was always a group of people pouring their hearts out to God.

I thought of this authentic style of worship again today when the pianist fumbled over the music, the songs were kinda cheesy youth groupy songs, and no one clapped but me and Rob. I was a bit embarrassed because we had three groups of visitors and all I could think was, "They must think we're so pathetic!" And yet, what they were hearing was us, just as we are.  Granted, last week the music rocked, so it's not like we're always stumbling along. But today we were. It was us. Just as we are. No frills. Nothing fancy. 

And it struck me -- the buzzword among "cutting edge" churches these days is that they're authentic.  But ironically, the "cutting edge" churches in our denomination, the ones that tout themselves as being "authentic Christian community"s are the ones that pay professionals (often not even Christian professionals) to play the music in their services.  How authentic is that?

Another buzzword is community. There's a movement to build community within churches rather than just walking in, punching your card (so to speak), and leaving again. Our church doesn't really talk about community, and yet we live it. We're not perfect, but we have a deep rooted sense of our family-ness with one another.  And again, the "cutting edge" church in our denomination that we attended, where community was an oft used term and people thronged to the church to hear the pastor speak on the topic, was probably the church with the least amount of community that I've ever been a part of.

I suppose my point is that people can talk a good talk. They can speak of authenticity and community and it all sounds blessedly marvelous. But the proof of the pudding is in the tasting. And it's not necessarily something you can see in one visit to one event in our congregation. Community is something that you see over a period of time. Authenticity is something that you recognize as you look at the church budget, as you talk with the church members, and as you see people's words and actions in alignment over a period of time.

I appreciate that I'm a part of a congregation that doesn't just talk the talk. It walks the walk. Granted, it's a jagged, jumbled, scraggly, fumbling walk. But we're walking it, in all of our messed-up-ness and frailty. We're on the road. Authentic isn't really very pretty. It's plain and sometimes it's even awkward and bumbling. But it's who we are.

12 comments:

  1. Love it! And love you and your family too.

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  2. d'aw!

    btw, i came out with a 12, 10, 8 on that test you emailed out. i think that means that i like a lot of variety in a sermon. ;-)

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  3. is that you 'speaking' Meg?
    about your church?

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  4. lol! what? do you mean the picture or the text? the text is me. and yes, about churches past and present.

    as far as the picture, that's the pastor of the church i was at in detroit. i can't remember who that was he was baptizing and the picture's too blurry for me to zoom in very far. i'm guessing it was the assistant pastor's oldest.

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  5. I mean the text...
    wasn't sure if you were speaking of your present church or not

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  6. I love what you're saying here, Meg. I've known a church where they talked big talk but I often felt that everything was too sleek and swish and every hair in place, like we were putting on a show - the attitude being: let the seekers see that we do things well... why? if I was a seeker I'd be utterly overwhelmed and discouraged by a sleek and perfect show, I'd think: there's no room for someone like me in this kind of setup!

    whereas a church that's being real, human and bungling and normal... that is what says to me: you're welcome as you are, you don't have to be perfect to join us.

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  7. the first paragraph is about the church i attended in detroit. the rest is about our current church except where i refer to another church in our denomination that thinks of itself as being authentic but pays hundreds of dollars a month for professional musicians to come in and play for the services. that would be our last church back in california. ... confused even more now? ;-)

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  8. check out meirav's thoughts on this same topic here: Thoughts on Being Real

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  9. what I found so inauthentic about many congregations is how everything [almost, except the carefully planned and timed 'times of spontaneity'] was planned, programmed, about ''the service,'' and then people reckoned they had 'fellowship' in the 10 or 15 minutes standing around the edges of the building chatting afterwards...
    I used to look around, and see so many standing on their own, excluded, shy, while, especially, the bright young things chatted amongst themselves.
    Me and my husband did what we could in that last congregation, and a prior one, to invite those who 'didn't fit in' home with us for dinner, and chat to them...but we were lonely too..and also had energetic kids to watch who thought big buildings were great to run around in [as did the 'well behaved' kids whose parents never spotted them getting up to 'naughties'] to get rid of their boredom after being expected to sit still for an hour and hear yet another story that they had heard countless times from birth.

    the most authentic time and real church I was in, was in '87 when we met in local homes on a rota basis
    and also the true fellowship with those I served with in a mission and shared a house with

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  10. and here's a third post right in progression with what meirav and i have written, although i really doubt scott read either of our posts before posting his. (he probably doesn't even know who we are.) http://sustainabletraditions.com/2010/01/why-the-church-is-full-of-sickies/trackback/

    (the URL has that last "trackback" bit. i hate trackback's but i'm experimenting here to see if just adding the link to this page add's a link back here on that page. you know how i love to play with things like that.)

    here's the progression as i see it:

    i wrote about turning away from fake "authentic". meirav wrote about embracing the real. and scott wrote about how reality in the church is to be expected.

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  11. I like what he says there. Yes, of course we are all messed up people, what do you expect... Reminds me of something I heard recently from a guy who used to be a vicar and apparently he'd had some guest speaker come to his church who later wrote to him to say he'd left his bible in the pew and please could he have it back. The bible was not to be found anywhere. This guy got irate and said: surely you don't have people in your church who would steal a bible?!!! the vicar wrote back and said: but my church is full of sinners.

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